How Do I Avoid Emotionally Hurting Either Of Them???

oh what a pickle, well first of all no matter how great our Friends are to us they can be a totally different person with their partners, my best friend is so nice and loving and is generally a great person, but she treats her husband like he is a piece of dog poo and none of us can figure out how she can be two different people, so sometimes it just happens, secondly the hard part is going to be your feelings for tom, if they break up then i would suggest that you do not go out with him straight away this will really upset angela and she will think that yo have stolen her boyfriend, just wait and see if the feelings between tom and yourself are just because he is comming to you about his relationship problems, i am sure if you like each other waiting at least a few months will not hurt, then if you do get together then tell angela first, yes she will be mad but not as mad as she would if you got together straight away and didn't tell her, you are all friends and although things like this do happen it is how you handle them that will make the difference, you all have the same friends so the last thing you will want is to cause a rift no man no matter how great you think he is is worht loseing your friends over, good luck honey i hope this all works out for you.